Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Post-Divorce: Dating vs Marriage?

A kind dating guru sent me a link to an article about why people choose not to marry, thinking it might interest my readers. The reasons include:

*Wanting freedom, independence, career
*Not wanting compromise, conformity, financial complications and, of course divorce
*They already have it all, are too young, are waiting for their soul mate

Let’s take a look at the post-divorce list.
*All of the above (except make “are too young,” “are too old”)
*Complications with the parenting issues, kids’ reactions and blended families
*Lack of trust in the institution of marriage...” look how it turned out the last time(s)”
*Lack of trust in the institution…perhaps humans are not meant to be in long-term monogamous relationships
*Feeling of “what’s the point?,” particularly if kids are grown

If I’ve left anything out, please comment below.

I’m all about the benefits of relationships and dating for those post-divorce. But I think marriage has to be an individual decision. It certainly does seem to have its downsides. But you have to weigh those against the benefits. And problems in a marriage, or any relationship for that matter, can be addressed.

Contact me to attend a free 2-session teleseminar, Move Into Post-Divorce Life. Enjoy the Journey.

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