Monday, March 31, 2014

Change Your Thoughts And Your Life Will Change

One of your big post-divorce tasks will be to change the way you do things. This YourTango post will give you some ideas about how to make that happen. 

It starts off like this:

 The way you do one thing is the way you do everything has been rattling around in my head since January, the day I heard it twice in one single day. When something strikes me as interesting, and then it comes up again, I figure it might be important. I also apply this strategy when listening as a therapist or coach, evidence that the adage applies for me. 

People come to me seeking change. They want to change their mood, their habits, their careers, their relationships, or their parenting style, among other things. It's wonderful to decide you want to make important changes in your life. 

The problem is that the way you do one thing does seem to be the way you do most things. Notice I got rid of everything. There's Perfect Pete, rarely coloring outside the lines, desperately following the rules, despite the misery it brings.  Read more here...


Saturday, March 8, 2014

The Five Benefits of a Well-Organized Life

Now that you're divorced, you're going to have to get organized. In this post you'll learn some of the positively painless things you need to know about living with routines.

One of my clients wants to work on how to be more like a grown-up; she wonders if she needs a schedule. Another bemoans the need for routine in her diet to help her lose weight.  A third client wants to start an exercise program but hates the idea of scheduling it. There's something about the myriad routines and schedules of adult life that many of us resist.

Read more here...