It’s summer. Maybe you have a little more time than usual to reflect. Wisdom is something that comes from quiet reflection and involves “expertise in the conduct and meaning of life.” These are a few things I’ve been picking up on lately from my clients, who are often quite wise.
*No matter how well meaning we are, our ex-spouse may still perceive us as diabolically underhanded and destructive.
* Always take the high road. You won’t regret it.
* When in doubt, whether with your ex-spouse, new “friend,” or suffering children, take five, consider the consequences and carefully plan how to act.
*What’s good for the goose is not good for the gander. That is to say, you may think that because your ex-spouse did something, it’s okay for you to do the same. They will not necessarily think so.
*The likelihood that your ex-spouse is going to miraculously change into a better person is slim. And neither will you, unless you work on it.
*If you didn’t communicate well when you were married, you probably won’t communicate well now that you’re divorced. There are notable exceptions to this rule, but you’re probably not one of them (just probabilities).
*You can improve how you relate to people by learning from your mistakes, i.e., your marriage.
*If it’s difficult for you, know that it gets better.
Mighty words of wisdom:
We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. Marcel Proust
Summer music: Summertime, Janis Joplin
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