Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Light at the End of the Tunnel

Sometimes it seems like things are never going to get better post-divorce. I started reading memoirs as a way of trying to understand how some people are able to move on in life, while others get stuck. The scientist in me knows that one case does not a finding make, but the creative in me believes that one can learn so much from a single example. I’m so encouraged by people who are able to overcome the extremes of suffering and loss. I loved An Exact Replica of a Figment of my Imagination¸ Elizabeth McCracken’s brilliant memoir of loss and recovery. Joan Didion in The Year of Magical Thinking, is another example.

What can you do? If you can’t see the light:

Read a memoir.
Read a novel (old, Anna Karenina or new, One Day).
Read self-help (old, Reinventing your Life, or new, The How of Happiness).
Confide in a close friend.
Confide in a not so close friend.
Go to a museum.
Watch a funny movie (old, Groundhog Day, new, Date Night).
Watch an action movie (old, The Terminator, new, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo).
Watch a movie sadder than your life (old, Saving Private Ryan, new, The Reader).
Write a novel,a blog, a journal or your memoir.
Come up with something that fits you and leave a comment about it below.

Just don’t join the hoards of people who curl up and give up. Instead, look for that light at the end of the tunnel. If you need help, get a coach or a therapist. Or…

Contact me to attend a free 2-session teleseminar, Move Into Post-Divorce Life. Enjoy the Journey.

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