Saturday, March 17, 2012

Post-Divorce Freedom

Running gives freedom. When you run you can determine your own tempo. You can choose your own course and think whatever you want. Nobody tells you what to do.  Nina Kuscik, Marathoner.

Think about that quote.  Now think about what how that quote applies to post-divorce life.

Running gives freedom, as in lack of constraints.  When you’re divorced, you have a similar lack of constraints.  You can totally do your own thing.  Once you get through the pain, the freedom is uplifting.

You determine your own tempo.  How you go about your week, how fast or how slow, is completely up to you.  Sleep in on Saturday?  Go out for brunch on Sunday?  You determine the pace.

Choose your own course.  Going back to school?  Taking an art class?  Going to Florida with the kids for spring break?  Be unconventional if you’d like.  You get to choose.

Think whatever you want.  Voting for Obama?  Happy about your new apartment?  Believe that your parents moving next door is okay?  It’s completely up to you and you don’t have to change your thinking for anyone else.

Nobody tells you what to do.  My personal favorite.  No matter how good the marriage was, there is a strong tendency for spouses to boss one another.  It’s so good not to be bossed.

Consider what this new freedom and independence offers.  Figure out one thing you’d like to do this week, then do it.  The next time you question what you think, just go with it.  Relish the fact that there’s no one that can tell you what to do.  And run with the freedom.

Freedom, Paul McCartney

1 comment:

  1. Yes! I've known many people who get stuck after divorce, before realizing just how free they now are, and finding themselves and what they want to do again (choosing their own course). Freedom is powerful.