I'm not saying you have to go to therapy after your divorce. But in case you do, here are some things to keep in mind about sticking, or not sticking, with your new BFF. From my latest YourTango post...
A client comes in to see me. When I ask how long
she's been depressed, she replies, "Probably my whole life." The odd part
is not the lifetime of depression. Sadly, I hear that more often than you might
think. The odd part is when we meet a second or third time. I learn my client is
considering dropping out of therapy, because, she says, "I don't think I'm
getting any better."
Here's the thing...while therapy is supposed to, and
usually does, instill hope for the future, if you've been depressed your whole
life, can you really expect to feel significantly better in a week or two?
According to a recent book,
20% of the time clients drop out of therapy early, most often because they have
unrealistic expectations. The most common is that dramatic, sustained change
will happen after the first session, or two. The unusual and sometimes
confusing nature of the therapy process itself can also drive clients away.
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